Men.

When a man is in love, he is wholeheartedly all in and means it with his very inmost, fragile being. From deep down in his gut, tucked safely hidden within. 

At times he won't let you in to all his thoughts and unsure feelings. Not because he wouldn't want to, sometimes he just needs time to learn the best way how to. 

If he loves you now and he says it everyday, he shows it in his doing and his eyes reflect its truth. Believe it that he really, certainly, always, definitely will. 

So don't waste away that security, don't lose that special bond, don't take his heart for granted, don't leave it out to rot. 

Though men are strong, their hearts are weak. They may show the expected exterior, but their internal is unique. 

Don't put him in a box, don't stuff him in a mold, don't judge him through a mood, don't make him mend your soul. Don't pressure him to be, at the pace you expected to see. Just love him where he is, love him wholly to the core. Though he is brave, he needs your armour. Though protecting you is in his design, he depends on finding home always nestled where you breathe. And home should be a treasured space of acceptance, comfort and warmth. A place to lay your head down and completely, perfectly entrust. 

"Words satisfy the mind as much as fruit does the stomach; good talk is as gratifying as a good harvest. Words kill, words give life; they’re either poison or fruit—you choose. Find a good spouse, you find a good life— and even more: the favor of GOD!" 

(Proverbs 18:20-22 MSG)

The Nostalgic Friend?

Authentic friendship, is when your mere presence encourages your friend to relax in themselves and to excel out their true-selves. It makes you feel like you can just take a deep breath in and then breathe out all the pretence and simply BE. It evokes right confidence, understood humour, homely comfort, indepth beauty and ever growing wisdom. The need to be genuinely known is so deep, still many go through life without experiencing this great gift. Fame and popularity is so enticing, of course we like the idea of being liked by everyone. But at the end of the day, most of us would rather have a real friend with shared history and warm memories, to walk through all corners of life with. Some dark, others bright, some straightforward, others feared. Corners, not friends :)

Unfortunately you won't fit with everyone and you can't expect to. Some people unmeaningly pull others towards them like magnets, others need time to build rapport. But the friendships you do create won't all flourish the same way. Some you will click with instantly, like kindred spirits they say. Others you'll grow towards as you learn to appreciate and love them more. But I sincerely believe everyone needs a friend that helps you feel like your best you and allows you to explore who you truly are or want to be. They are like a breath of fresh air and the comfort of a nostalgic smell all mixed into one. Just like family. 

Friendship. Is it a force? Is it a human need? Do we ever evolve without it or will we unwittingly digress? 

"By the time David had finished reporting to Saul, Jonathan was deeply impressed with David—an immediate bond was forged between them. He became totally committed to David. From that point on he would be David’s number-one advocate and friend."

(1 Samuel 18:1 MSG)

Rest In

Does the ocean know it's own depth? Do the waves sense from whence they have been carried?

Does the sky know our dreams are found there? Do the clouds tempt us in how near we are to them?

I want to see Your reflection in the depth of the sea. I run to hear Your voice through the words in the breeze. I long to know the secrecy of the One who said "look up at the skies and count the stars." 

Always within reach, like the intensity of a whisper or the proximity of my own thoughts, is the One who sits beside me as I look up, look down and look around. 

When life is at its darkest, we have no where to look but within. That's where stillness sets and prayers are met, when we let The Light in. 

Look up, look down, look around, but don't forget to rest in.